On having a social circle that is too small

March 14, 2021

I have a small social network as an ex-pat working and living in a foreign nation. Most of my pals live in my home country, although I communicate with them daily through my work. This group of friends is too small for me, and it would endanger my life. Last time, I was forced to move out of my apartment due to unexpected lease termination and needed to find a new home to stay in immediately. I didn’t have many buddies who could assist me. I had no notion which areas were desirable or how to find a reputable real estate agent. I wound myself in a cramped room with no way to open the window, which was less than ideal. At that point, I realized how critical it is to have a large social network to acquire local counsel and potentially find a place with lower rent. I was overpaying for a shared apartment when I could have a larger private room for the same price in other rural areas. Because I have a small social circle in this distant nation, I would never find out.

I could have done things differently if I had expanded my social network. Aside from my coworkers, I need to meet more people outside of my job. As an introvert, I need to participate in other social activities, such as public speaking groups, sports, and cultural groups, instead of reading books at home during weekends. I can also use the internet to reach out to folks I don’t normally interact with, such as by writing blog entries for a global audience or hosting a podcast for an audience with a completely different background than me. I wouldn’t know everything globally if I didn’t understand individuals from a different standpoint. I’d rely on others to contribute their information to discover the truth collaboratively. Instead of assisting the same small set of friends, I may have more possibilities to give to others if I had a bigger social circle. I’d be able to learn from people outside of my social circle, gain insight from industry insiders, and have a greater understanding of our society.

I’d start posting every day to focus on improving this flaw. There are three primary motivations for doing so. To do blogging allows me to connect with people outside of my social network. I gained more time to develop my thoughts and express myself by writing down my ideas. Because I had already put down these statements in advance in one of my blog posts, the next time I could talk to strangers, I would be able to find the right words to connect with them. It aids my public speaking and the expression of complex thoughts. Second, I have valuable thoughts to communicate with others who aren’t in my social circle. Writing a blog helps me recall and learn new things while also teaching and sharing with others. Richard Feynman, my favourite physicist, developed the Feynman Technique, an efficient learning tool. I can notice a gap in my comprehension while also assisting in transmitting these new concepts to others outside of my social circle by pretending to present a new notion to others using simple wordings. Finally, writing helps me self-reflect, such as writing on Jordan Peterson’s self-authoring website. After reading his book, 12 Rules of Life, it can help me and other individuals outside of my social circle and make a huge impact on our personal development by writing down my flaws, completing retrospectives, and taking actions to better.


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