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A Future to Avoid

A life without significance paints a vivid image of an unfavorable future. People work diligently to achieve their goals in pursuit of their ideals. The purpose of science is to uncover truth, while art aims to display beauty. Acts of kindness and love define morality, and the value of political actions lies in achieving social fairness. Human desires for food, love, honor, and power all culminate in self-actualization. According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, these values propel us toward the highest level of self-actualization in our lives.

My values shape my daily actions. I strive to find value in everything, uncover significance in seemingly trivial matters, extract positives from negatives, and consistently live up to my life values. I believe this value system can guide me daily, enriching my life and improving my character.

To become my ideal self, I must avoid failing to achieve my goals, letting bad habits spiral out of control, and becoming dissatisfied, resentful, or bitter. I need to pursue various interests and invest significant effort. Filling my life with a variety of compelling content and activities, these pursuits will collectively create a more meaningful existence. The more experiences I have, the better I will understand my own life.

Living a distinctive and enriching life would help me avoid envy of others. I should focus less on physical possessions and more on psychological growth. I should never be content with my current state of mind but continually nourish my creativity and strive to become stronger and better.

In my career, I seek meaning and purpose. I aim to infuse my daily tasks with energy and connect them to the greater good. When I fail to make this connection, I become burned out and lose motivation.

Employees often distrust motivational speeches from bosses, suspecting that the main goal is to extract more work from them. However, a wise leader can turn a challenging situation into an extraordinary opportunity. As the saying goes, "Money follows management," and the inverse is also true: poor management leads to financial waste. A senior leadership team that makes poor judgments demoralizes employees and makes work feel pointless. In such a toxic environment, I must be aware that people may resort to deceitful and dishonest behavior, which I should avoid in the future.

Working solely for money can reduce my ability to experience emotions like joy and curiosity that come from pursuing meaningful goals. With sufficient passive income, I would have the financial freedom to explore and experiment. This decentralized approach allows for greater creativity and makes small successful trials even more rewarding.

To manage my productive anxiety, I need to engage in mental rehearsals. While some people may react negatively to my actions and words, I must remain passionate even if undervalued. I should strive to understand people's needs and interests, hear the assurance in my own voice, and speak with ease. In tense situations, I will employ sarcasm or withdrawal to avoid inadequate responses. As a leader, my aim is to inject energy into the workplace and make a positive impact on both relationships and the organization as a whole.

Virtual experiences can never replace real ones. I can't fully assess my enthusiasm for or competence in any endeavor without actually engaging in it. In simple terms, fear revolves around the possibility of danger. To conquer fear, I need to understand thoroughly the opportunity, odds, risks, and benefits.

Engaging in real experiences allows me to envision the future, predict my place in it, and plan accordingly. Volunteering provides a chance to apply my skills. I cannot afford to be passive and silent as time passes by.

I am acutely aware that I will die one day. While I don't know where I came from before birth or where I'll go after death, I do know that the present moment is unique and should not be wasted.

If I don't use my curiosity to try new things and discover new ideas and solutions, it would be a waste. I aim to inspire others with my vision and remain open to better solutions while avoiding idealism and perfectionism. For me, "good enough" is not acceptable.

My passion lies in creativity and innovation. I wish to collaborate with individuals who appreciate the application of creative and strategic thinking to solve problems. I can see the big picture, structure a problem, inspire strategic leadership with curiosity and ingenuity, and be well-suited for my ideal future.

A future to avoid would be one that stifles my principles and prevents me from becoming my best self. Should I find myself in a life filled with cynicism and resentment, I would know I have failed to live up to my potential.

A Future to Avoid

Welcome back to another episode of Continuous Improvement, the podcast where we explore ways to enhance our lives and strive towards personal growth. I'm your host, Victor, and today we're diving into the topic of living a life of significance.

Living a life filled with purpose and meaning is something we all aspire to. Each one of us has our own set of values that shape our daily actions and guide us towards our goals. But how do we ensure that we are consistently living up to these values? How do we avoid becoming dissatisfied, resentful, or bitter?

According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, we all have basic desires that culminate in self-actualization. But self-actualization goes beyond meeting our physical needs. It involves finding value in every aspect of our lives, extracting positives from negatives, and consistently striving to improve our character.

To create a more meaningful existence, it's important to pursue various interests and invest significant effort in them. By filling our lives with compelling content and activities, we gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world around us. It also helps us avoid the trap of envy, focusing less on material possessions and more on psychological growth.

In our careers, we often seek meaning and purpose. Connecting our daily tasks to a greater good can infuse them with energy and motivation. But how do we avoid burnout and maintain our sense of purpose?

Leadership plays a crucial role in creating a positive work environment. A wise leader can turn a challenging situation into an extraordinary opportunity, inspiring employees to go above and beyond. On the other hand, poor management can lead to demoralization and a sense of pointlessness in our work. As individuals, we should be aware of the toxic environment and strive to avoid deceitful and dishonest behavior.

While financial stability is important, working solely for money can hinder our ability to find joy and curiosity in our pursuits. Creating a decentralized approach to work, where we have the financial freedom to explore and experiment, can lead to greater creativity and fulfillment.

Managing our productive anxiety is another key aspect of living a life of significance. Engaging in mental rehearsals and understanding people's needs and interests can help us navigate tense situations. As leaders, injecting energy into the workplace and making a positive impact on relationships is crucial.

Real experiences, as opposed to virtual ones, allow us to fully assess our enthusiasm and competence in any endeavor. Conquering fear means understanding the opportunity, odds, risks, and benefits involved. By engaging with the world around us and being proactive, we can avoid being passive and silent as time passes by.

And let's not forget the ever-present reminder that life is finite. Each moment is unique and should not be wasted. To truly live a life of significance, we must embrace curiosity, try new things, and remain open to better solutions. Mediocrity or settling for "good enough" is not acceptable.

Creativity and innovation are at the heart of our passions. Collaborating with individuals who appreciate creative and strategic thinking can help us solve problems and envision a better future. Avoiding a life filled with cynicism and resentment means constantly striving to live up to our potential and becoming our best selves.

Thank you for tuning in to this episode of Continuous Improvement. I hope it has inspired you to reflect on your own values and seek a life of significance. Remember, it's never too late to start living a life that truly aligns with your ideals.

If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to subscribe to our podcast and leave us a review. Until next time, keep striving for continuous improvement.

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避免的未來

一個沒有意義的生活描繪了一個不利的未來的生動圖象。人們努力工作以實現他們的目標，追求他們的理想。科學的目的是揭示真理，而藝術的目標是顯示美。善良和愛的行為確立了道德，政治行動的價值在於實現社會公平。人類對食物、愛情、榮譽和權力的慾望都會在自我實現中達到高潮。根據馬斯洛的需求層次理論，這些價值推動我們在生活中達到自我實現的最高水平。

我的價值觀塑造了我的日常行為。我努力在所有事物中找到價值，從看似微不足道的事物中挖掘意義，從負面中提取積極，並持續地活出我的生命價值。我相信這種價值體系可以指導我的日常生活，豐富我的生活，提高我的性格。

要成為我理想的自我，我必須避免實現不了我的目標，讓壞習慣失控，變得不滿、憤怒或苦澀。我需要追求各種興趣，投入大量的努力。用各種引人入勝的內容和活動充實我的生活，這些追求將共同創造出更有意義的生活。我擁有的經驗越多，我就越能理解自己的生活。

過一種與眾不同、充實的生活將幫助我避免嫉妒他人。我應該少關注物質，更關注心靈成長。我永遠不應該對我的現狀感到滿足，而應該不斷地滋養我的創造力並努力變得更強大和更好。

在我的職業中，我追求意義和目的。我旨在將能量注入我的日常任務，並將它們與更大的利益相連接。當我無法建立這種聯繫時，我就會感到疲倦並丧失動力。

員工經常不信任來自老板的激勵性演講，懷疑其主要目的是讓他們多做工作。然而，一位聰明的領導者可以將一個困難的情況轉變為一個非凡的機會。俗話說，“錢跟著管理走，”反之亦然，管理不善會導致財務浪費。一個做出錯誤判斷的高級領導團隊會使員工情緒低落，讓工作變得毫無意義。在這種有毒的環境中，我必須意識到人們可能會訴諸欺詐和不誠實的行為，這是我將在未來避免的。

僅僅為了金錢工作會削弱我的感受到快樂和好奇心的能力，這些感情來自於追求有意義的目標。有了充足的被動收入，我就有了經濟自由去探索和嘗試。這種分散的方法允許更大的創造力，並使小的成功試驗更具有回報。

為了管理我的生產性焦慮，我需要進行精神排練。雖然有些人可能會對我的行為和話語產生負面反應，但即使在被低估的情況下，我也必須保持熱情。我應該努力理解人們的需求和興趣，聽到我自己聲音中的確定性，並且能夠輕鬆地說話。在緊張的情況下，我會使用諷刺或撤退來避免做出不適當的反應。作為一名領導者，我的目標是為工作場所注入能量，對人際關係和整個組織產生積極的影響。

虛擬經驗永遠無法代替真實的經驗。我不能在不實際參與的情況下全面評估我對任何事業的熱情或能力。簡而言之，恐懼圍繞著危險的可能性。要克服恐懼，我需要對機會、機率、風險和收益有深入的了解。

參與真實的經驗允許我想象未來，預測我的位置，並相應地做出計劃。志願者提供了一個應用我的技能的機會。我不能輕易地讓時間流逝，消極無言。

我清楚地知道我有一天會死。雖然我不知道我出生前來自何方，或者死後會去何方，但我知道，這個當下是獨一無二的，不應該被浪費。

如果我不用我的好奇心去嘗試新的事物，發現新的想法和解決方案，那就太浪費了。我希望以我的視野激勵他人，並始終對更好的解決方案保持開放，同時避免理想主義和完美主義。對我來說，"夠好"是不可接受的。

我的熱情在於創造力和創新。我希望與那些欣賞創造性和策略性思維解決問題的人合作。我可以看到全局，結構化問題，激發策略領導的好奇心和獨創性，並能夠適應我理想的未來。

我希望避免的未來是那種壓抑我的原則，阻礙我成為最好的自己的未來。如果我發現自己的生活充滿了冷嘲和怨恨，那就表示我沒有活出我的潛力。

The Ideal Future

I aspire to be an exceptional leader in my ideal future. Serving the community not only brings immense fulfillment but also requires ongoing learning to navigate a demanding environment.

Leadership is never simple, yet it is achievable. It involves skillfully navigating politics, bridging gaps between individuals and departments, addressing sensitive issues, and exhibiting courage in risky situations. Leaders must inspire commitment, handle resistance effectively, and show up confidently in critical moments.

In this post, I discuss various roles within organizations—leaders, managers, team members, employees, superiors, and subordinates. All of these roles share one thing: they are performed by humans with different thoughts, behaviors, attitudes, and working styles, often shaped by corporate culture.

Although I have yet to reach the level of a corporate leader, I strive to demonstrate leadership qualities and earn the respect of my colleagues. In any organization, CEOs and board members set the policies and are considered the true leaders.

A key distinction between leaders and managers is that leaders have followers, while managers have employees. A successful business owner or CEO must be both a leader and a manager to guide their team toward success. Leadership involves inspiring others to buy into your vision and collaborate on common goals, whereas management focuses on the administrative side of ensuring smooth daily operations.

Leader vs Manager

Leader

• Focuses on people
• Does the right things
• Inspires
• Influences
• Motivates
• Builds
• Shapes entities
• Creates shared values
• Sets direction

Manager

• Focuses on tasks
• Does things right
• Plans
• Organizes
• Directs
• Controls
• Follows rules
• Assigns tasks
• Delegates responsibilities

While the roles are distinct, a successful manager also embodies numerous leadership qualities. I believe that my leadership skills can enhance my career as a manager, benefiting both my company and myself.

My Leadership Qualities

My leadership qualities include Vision, Communication, Empowerment, and Role Modeling. A leader should have a visionary perspective, inspiring others to aim high. Leaders like Nelson Mandela and Steve Jobs, who I greatly admire, have exhibited this visionary power. They were able to challenge the status quo and bring about significant changes in society and industry.

Communication

Effective communication involves more than just speaking well; it also means connecting meaningfully through various channels like face-to-face interaction, emails, and social media. Each channel requires a unique approach, but the content and structure of the message are what truly make the difference.

Empowerment

Empowerment in the workplace is increasingly becoming the norm. It involves delegation, authorization, and information sharing. However, self-empowerment is equally crucial for achieving efficiency in day-to-day life.

Role Model

A role model leads by example, exhibiting high standards of responsibility and integrity. Role models are self-aware, empathetic, and open to new ideas. They empower others by first empowering themselves.

As a new manager, I recognize that I have much to learn and that making mistakes is part of the process. I'm committed to continuous improvement and aim to positively impact society and inspire others to make the world a better place.

My journey involves developing my communication skills, both verbal and non-verbal, and building strong relationships with my team. Learning to be an effective leader is an ongoing process that requires active participation, not just passive learning. Taking on real-life challenges and practicing leadership in low-risk situations is essential for growth.

In summary, my ideal future involves being an honorable and effective leader who contributes positively to the world. I admire many great leaders in history who may not have excelled in every area but had specific strengths that allowed their teams to achieve remarkable results. Like them, I aim to make the most of my strengths to create a better future for everyone.

The Ideal Future

Welcome to Continuous Improvement, the podcast where we explore the qualities and skills needed for exceptional leadership. I'm your host, Victor, and today we're diving into the distinction between leaders and managers.

Leadership is a complex journey that involves skillfully navigating various roles within organizations. From CEOs and board members to team members and superiors, all of these roles are performed by humans with different thoughts, behaviors, attitudes, and working styles. Today, we'll discuss the differences between leaders and managers and how these roles intersect.

A key distinction between leaders and managers is that leaders have followers, while managers have employees. Aspiring leaders need to understand the importance of being both a leader and a manager to guide their team towards success. While leadership focuses on inspiring others to buy into a vision and collaborate on common goals, management deals with the administrative side of ensuring smooth daily operations.

But can a successful manager also be an exceptional leader? Absolutely. In fact, many leadership qualities are vital for effective management. One must possess a visionary perspective, inspiring others to aim high. Think of leaders like Nelson Mandela and Steve Jobs, who challenged the status quo and brought about significant changes in society and industry.

Effective communication is a fundamental skill for leaders and managers alike. It's more than just speaking well; it's about connecting meaningfully through various channels such as face-to-face interaction, emails, and social media. Each channel requires a unique approach, but the content and structure of the message are what truly make the difference.

Empowerment is another essential quality for leaders and managers. It involves delegation, authorization, and information sharing. However, self-empowerment is equally crucial for achieving efficiency in day-to-day life. By empowering themselves, leaders can better empower others.

Lastly, a leader must serve as a role model and lead by example. Responsibility, integrity, self-awareness, empathy, and openness to new ideas are all traits of an effective role model. By embodying these qualities, leaders empower their teams and create a positive working environment.

As I begin my journey as a manager, I recognize that I have much to learn. Continuous improvement is not just a buzzword—it is a mindset that drives growth. Making mistakes along the way is expected, but it's through these experiences that we can learn and become better leaders.

Developing effective communication skills and building strong relationships with my team are my top priorities. Learning to be an exceptional leader is an ongoing process that requires active participation. It's about taking on real-life challenges and practicing leadership in low-risk situations to hone our skills.

In summary, my ideal future involves being an honorable and effective leader who positively impacts society and inspires others to make the world a better place. Like many great leaders in history, I aim to make the most of my strengths to create a better future for everyone.

That's all for today's episode of Continuous Improvement. I hope you've gained valuable insights into the qualities and skills needed for exceptional leadership. Join me next time as we explore more on this topic. Remember, leadership is a journey of continuous growth and improvement.

Thank you for listening to Continuous Improvement. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and leave a review. And don't forget to share the podcast with your friends and colleagues who aspire to be exceptional leaders.

Until next time, keep striving for excellence and inspiring those around you. This is Victor signing off.

理想的未來

在我理想的未來，我渴望成為一位卓越的領導者。為社區服務不僅帶來巨大的滿足感，也需要持續學習以應對嚴峻的環境。

領導絕非易事，但卻可以實現。它涉及巧妙地導航政治，彌補個人和部門之間的差距，解決敏感問題，並在風險情況中展現勇氣。領導者必須激發承諾，有效處理阻力，並在關鍵時刻自信地出現。

在這篇文章中，我討論了組織內的各種角色 - 領導者，經理，團隊成員，員工，上級和下屬。所有這些角色都有一個共同點：他們是由擁有不同思想，行為，態度和工作風格的人執行的，這些人往往由公司文化塑造。

儘管我還未達到企業領導者的水平，但我努力展示領導品質並贏得同事的尊重。在任何組織中，首席執行官和董事會成員都會制定政策，並被視為真正的領導者。

領導者與經理的一個關鍵區別是領導者有追隨者，而經理有員工。成功的企業主或首席執行官必須是領導者和經理，以引導他們的團隊走向成功。領導包括激勵他人買入您的願景並合作實現共同的目標，而管理則專注於確保日常運營順利。

領導者vs經理

領導者

• 專注於人
• 做對的事
• 激勵
• 影響
• 激勵
• 建設
• 塑造實體
• 創建共享價值觀
• 設定方向

經理

• 專注於任務
• 做事對
• 計劃
• 組織
• 指導
• 控制
• 遵守規則
• 分配任務
• 委派責任

儘管角色明確，但成功的經理也體現了眾多領導素質。我相信我的領導技能可以提升我的經理職業生涯，對我和我的公司都有利。

我的領導素質

我的領導素質包括願景，溝通，賦權和角色塑造。一個領導者應有前瞻性的觀點，激勵他人設定高目標。像我非常敬佩的奈爾遜·曼德拉和史蒂夫·賈伯斯這樣的領導者就展示了這種有遠見的力量。他們能挑戰現狀，並在社會和行業中帶來重大變革。

溝通

有效的溝通不僅僅是說話能力強，還意味著需要通過面對面交互，電子郵件和社交媒體等多種渠道進行有意義的連接。每個頻道都需要獨特的方法，但信息的內容和結構才是真正產生差別的地方。

賦權

工作場所中的賦權越來越成為常態。它涉及委派，授權，和信息共享。然而，自我賦權同樣對於實現日常生活的效率至關重要。

角色模型

一個角色模型以身作則，表現出高度的責任心和誠信。角色模型具有自我意識，有同情心，並對新想法持開放態度。他們通過首先賦予自己權力來賦權他人。

作為一個新的經理，我認識到我還有很多要學習，並且犯錯是過程的一部分。我致力於持續改進並旨在積極影響社會，激勵他人使世界變得更美好。

我的旅程涉及到發展我的溝通技巧，無論是口語還是非語言，並與我的團隊建立堅固的關係。學習成為一個有效的領導者是一個需要主動參與的持續過程，而不僅僅是被動學習。在低風險的情況下承擔真實生活的挑戰並練習領導是促進成長的必要條件。

總的來說，我理想的未來包括成為一個光榮和有效的領導者，對世界作出積極的貢獻。我敬佩歷史上許多偉大的領導者，他們可能並不擅長每個領域，但有特定的優勢讓他們的團隊能夠取得驚人的成果。就像他們一樣，我也希望充分利用我的優勢為所有人創造更好的未來。

Swipe Left or Swipe Right? A Journey Through Dating and Maturity

Are you single or perhaps in a complicated marital status? Finding love can be a daunting task, whether you're single or "available."

I'm no stranger to dating apps like Tinder, Coffee Meets Bagel, OkCupid, and Hinge. Let me break down how they work: you swipe left to reject a profile and swipe right to connect. Most of the time, conversations end before they even begin, leaving me with untold stories.

On the education section of my dating profile, I mention my three university degrees, each tied to a story. It's not a big deal—just three stories, really.

First, there's my bachelor's degree in Chemistry from the Faculty of Science.

In high school, I was a dreamer engaged in student union activities while my then-girlfriend was a realist focused on academic excellence. We had divergent ambitions. After high school, we went to separate universities; I studied Chemistry, while she enrolled in business school. During a summer holiday, she broke up with me, criticizing my lack of ambition for our future. "Come on, Victor, can you be more mature?" she chided before walking away.

My second degree is a master's in Computer Science.

My first girlfriend was right. I ended up in a low-paying lab job and later went on a working holiday to Australia. Upon my return, I shifted careers to software engineering. To bridge the gap between my academic background and my new career, I pursued a master's degree in computer science. During this period, I met another girlfriend on a dating app. An extrovert, she earned more than I did and found me too controlling, which led to our breakup. "Come on, Victor, can you be more mature?" she said as she left.

Finally, there's my MBA.

Determined for a career change, I started an MBA program, stepping out of my comfort zone to network, which, yes, included drinking. During this time, I dated a Korean woman whose age I never quite determined. She left me for not being mature enough for her taste. "Come on, Victor, can you be more mature?" she advised before exiting my life.

So here I am, back on dating apps but with more self-awareness. I used to be a dreamer; now, I'm pragmatic. I used to be introverted; now, I've overcome my shyness to share this story with you. I used to be immature in relationships; now, I strive to be a responsible adult.

So, would you swipe left or right on me?

Swipe Left or Swipe Right? A Journey Through Dating and Maturity

Welcome back to Continuous Improvement, the podcast where we strive to become better versions of ourselves every day. I'm your host, Victor, and today's episode is all about the ups and downs of dating and how we can learn from our past experiences.

Are you single or in a complicated marital status? Trust me, I've been there too. Finding love can be a daunting task, whether you're single or "available." Today, I want to share my own journey through the world of dating apps, and how it has changed my perspective on love and personal growth.

Like many others, I've tried my fair share of dating apps - Tinder, Coffee Meets Bagel, OkCupid, Hinge, you name it. The concept seems simple enough - swipe left to reject, swipe right to connect. But as we all know, most conversations end before they even begin, leaving us with untold stories.

On my dating profile, I proudly mention my three university degrees, each tied to a story. Now, they may not seem like a big deal - just three stories, right? But these stories shaped who I am today, both personally and professionally.

Let's start with my bachelor's degree in Chemistry. Back in high school, I was a dreamer, involved in student union activities, while my then-girlfriend was more focused on academic excellence. We had different ambitions, and after high school, we went our separate ways. I pursued Chemistry, she enrolled in business school. During a summer holiday, she broke up with me, citing my lack of ambition for our future. It was a wake-up call. "Come on, Victor, can you be more mature?" she chided before walking away.

Fast forward to my master's degree in Computer Science. My first girlfriend was right all along. After my low-paying lab job, I embarked on a working holiday to Australia. When I returned, I decided to shift careers to software engineering. To bridge the gap between my academic background and my new career, I pursued a master's degree in computer science. During this period, I met another girlfriend on a dating app. An extrovert, she earned more than I did and found my controlling nature too much to handle. And once again, the words echoed, "Come on, Victor, can you be more mature?" And I had to let her go.

Finally, there's my MBA. Determined for a career change, I stepped out of my comfort zone to start an MBA program. Networking became a part of my life, and yes, that often involved some late-night drinks. It was during this time that I dated a Korean woman whose age I never quite determined. She left me, stating that I wasn't mature enough for her taste. "Come on, Victor, can you be more mature?" she advised before exiting my life.

So here I am, back on dating apps, but with a newfound self-awareness. I used to be a dreamer, but now I'm pragmatic. I used to be introverted, but now I've overcome my shyness to share this story with you. And most importantly, I used to be immature in relationships, but now I strive to be a responsible adult.

So, would you swipe left or right on me? Well, that's up to you. But for me, this journey has been about continuous improvement and learning from past experiences. Dating taught me not only about love but also about personal growth.

Remember, each relationship, each experience, is an opportunity for growth and self-reflection. By acknowledging our past mistakes, we can become better partners and better individuals.

That's all for today's episode of Continuous Improvement. Thanks for tuning in. Remember, love and personal growth go hand in hand. Until next time, keep swiping and keep improving.

向左滑或向右滑？一段通過約會與成熟的旅程

你是單身，還是處於一種複雜的婚姻狀態？找尋愛情可以是一項艱鉅的任務，無論你是單身還是“有空”。

我對約會應用程式例如Tinder、Coffee Meets Bagel、OkCupid 和 Hinge並不陌生。讓我來解釋它們是如何運作的: 你可以向左滑動以拒絕一個個人資料，向右滑動以建立連接。大部分的時候，對話在還未開始之前就已經結束了，讓我有許多未講述的故事。

在我的約會個人資料的教育部分，我提到了我的三個大學學位，每個都與一個故事相關。這沒什麼大不了的——只是三個故事而已。

首先，有我的化學學士學位，來自科學學院。

在高中的時候，我是一個夢想家參與學生會活動，而當時的女友是一個現實者專注於學業。我們的志向有所不同。高中畢業後，我們去了不同的大學；我讀的是化學，而她入讀了商學院。在一個暑假，她和我分手，批評我對我們未來的抱負不夠。"Victor，你能不能成熟一點?" 她在走開之前責備我。

我第二個學位是在電腦科學的碩士學位。

我的第一個女朋友是對的。我最終在一個待遇低落的實驗室工作，後來去澳洲做了一個工作假期。返回香港後，我轉行到軟件工程。為了彌補我在學術背景和新的職業之間的差距，我攻讀了電腦科學的碩士學位。在這段時間，我在約會應用程式上認識了另一個女朋友。她是一個外向的人，賺的比我多，並且覺得我太控制欲，這導致了我們的分手。"Victor，你能不能成熟一點?" 她在離開時說。

最後，有我的MBA學位。

為了求職場轉變，我開始進修MBA課程，跳出我的舒適圈去建立人脈，包括參與飲酒的活動。在這段時間，我和一個我從未確定她的年齡的韓國女人交往。她因為覺得我不夠成熟而離我而去。"Victor，你能不能成熟一點?" 她在離開我生活之前對我說。

所以我現在又回到了約會應用程式，但我更自覺了。我以前是個夢想家; 現在，我是實事求是的。我以前是個內向的人; 現在，我克服了我的害羞，和你分享這個故事。我在感情方面曾經不成熟; 現在，我努力成為一個負責任的成年人。

那麼，你會在我身上往左滑還是往右滑呢？

The Qualities I Admire in Leadership - Steve Jobs and Lee Kuan Yew

If I could invite anyone in the world to dinner, Steve Jobs and Lee Kuan Yew would be my top choices. While it's another matter whether they would accept my invitation, I greatly admire the quality of leadership they embody.

Steve Jobs was one of the most successful entrepreneurs of our time. His story is inspiring because he co-founded Apple, overcame numerous challenges, and disrupted entire industries with inventions like the iPhone. Jobs was a compelling leader who inspired millions globally to purchase Apple products. His exceptional presentation skills made even complex technology seem accessible. By dropping out of college to follow his interests, like calligraphy, he influenced the design of the first Macintosh computer. Jobs was unafraid to make major life decisions based on his own convictions. This led him to start Pixar, another highly successful venture. His work was remarkable because he followed his passions and had a clear vision for the future.

Another leader I deeply admire is Lee Kuan Yew, whose stewardship dramatically improved the quality of life in Singapore. Despite facing numerous challenges initially, he took responsibility for the well-being of his citizens. Lee's vision for Singapore has stood the test of time, elevating the standard of living for generations. A motivational speaker, he won people's admiration by dedicating his life to the betterment of his country. Lee demonstrated strong leadership qualities, leading with charisma and unwavering determination even amid uncertainty.

His role was pivotal in Singapore gaining independence and in successfully combating various crises and dark forces that threatened the nation. Faced with life-or-death scenarios, Lee showed extraordinary courage and instinct. His adept political skills enabled him to challenge the communist party of his era and build trust and credibility during crises.

I aspire to embody the attributes of these two great men to contribute positively to the world.