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Leading the Way

Welcome, everyone, to another episode of Continuous Improvement! I'm your host, Victor, and in today's episode, we're going to discuss a personal journey of growth and development. We'll dive into the importance of leadership and overcoming self-doubt when faced with challenging situations.

So, let's start from the beginning. It was the first day of my MBA program's orientation, and chaos and uncertainty filled the air. Our course coordinator had thrown us a curveball—a charity project to construct a wooden playground for a primary school. None of us had any experience in architecture or construction, but we had just two days to complete the project.

Now, here's where I made a crucial mistake. In the face of such a challenging task, I held back and waited for someone else to take charge. I was concerned about embarrassment in front of my peers, so I chose the role of a follower. I focused on completing individual tasks quickly and efficiently, without realizing the greater need for leadership and teamwork.

Reflecting on that experience three years later, I realized my mistake. Introversion shouldn't prevent us from sharing our ideas or stepping up as leaders. In that chaotic situation, many were looking for someone to provide direction and delegate tasks. Though I was effective as an individual contributor, I failed to recognize the importance of taking on a leadership role to ensure the success of the entire project.

Leadership is a crucial element in achieving success, not just in business but also in our personal and social spheres. This rings especially true in today's world, amidst global tensions and uncertainties. It's essential to exercise self-confidence and embrace leadership roles to make a positive impact.

Now, how do we turn our weaknesses into strengths? The key lies in recognizing the opportunities to lead—whether it be by joining organizations, volunteering, or even speaking up in public settings. Leadership isn't about personal gain; it's about genuinely helping others and taking responsibility for the group's success and well-being.

I am committed to transforming my weakness into a strength. I will strive to lead, and to keep leading, for the betterment of all involved. It's time to step outside of our comfort zones, exercise self-confidence, and share our ideas for the benefit of those around us.

And that brings us to the end of this episode of Continuous Improvement. I hope you've found inspiration and guidance in my personal journey of growth and development. Remember, leadership is a vital force that can drive not only our own success but also the success of the groups we are part of.

Stay tuned for our next episode, where we'll explore more strategies for continuous improvement. Thank you for listening, and until next time, strive for your personal and professional growth.

引領道路

我記得在我的MBA課程的迎新日，情況混亂且不確定。課程協調員為我們組織了一個慈善項目：為一所小學建一個木製遊樂場。鑑於我們中有許多人的背景是金融和辦公室工作，沒有人是建築或建築工作，我們感到迷失。我們只有二天時間來完成這個具挑戰性的項目。

在初期階段，我有機會掌握主導權。相反，我卻退縮，等待其他人來領導。我擔心在我的同儕面前尷尬，我將度過接下來的兩年。我的同學都是主動和外向的，而我選擇了跟隨者的角色，一部分是因為我的日間工作要求很高。我專注於快速有效地完成任務，認為這就足夠有價值。

三年後反思那次經驗，我認識到我犯了一個錯誤。內向不應該阻止我分享我的想法或領導一個團隊，無論年齡，文化或職稱。在那種混亂的情況下，許多人都在尋找領導者來提供方向並分派任務。雖然我作為一個個體貢獻者能夠有效地完成小任務，如建築滑梯，但整個項目需要團隊合作和領導力來建築整個遊樂場。

領導力對成功至關重要，不僅在商業上，也在社會和個人範疇中。現在，更是如此，在全球緊張和不確定的狀態下，我必須展現自信並擔任領導職務。有效的領導不是為了個人利益；它是真正幫助他人並為團體的成功和福祉負責。

我決定將這種弱點轉化為優勢。有很多機會領導 - 通過加入組織，做志願者，或者在公共場合發言。通過領導力取得成功的道路不在於我的成就，而是在於推動一個更大的團體的成功。我必須領導，並持續領導，為了所有參與者的福祉。

On Having a Social Circle That Is Too Small

As an expatriate working and living in a foreign country, I've found that my social circle is quite small. While most of my friends reside in my home country and I communicate with them through my work, this limited network puts me at a disadvantage. For instance, I recently had to vacate my apartment due to an unexpected lease termination and found myself scrambling to find a new place. Without a broad social network to guide me, I ended up in a less-than-ideal living situation. It was then that I realized the importance of having a more extensive social network for practical advice, such as finding affordable housing.

If I had a larger social circle, I could have approached this situation differently. Beyond my colleagues, I need to expand my connections by actively participating in various social activities. As an introvert, my default weekend activity is reading books at home, but I need to venture out and engage in public speaking clubs, sports, or cultural groups. The internet also offers an opportunity to connect with people I wouldn't ordinarily meet. Writing blog posts or hosting podcasts can help me understand perspectives different from my own and enable collaborative truth-seeking.

There are three main reasons why I plan to post regularly to address this issue. First, blogging allows me to connect with people outside of my immediate social circle, while also helping me articulate my thoughts better. Having already explored these thoughts in my blog posts, I can more effectively communicate with strangers. Second, I have valuable insights to share. The Feynman Technique, named after my favorite physicist Richard Feynman, posits that explaining something in simple terms helps to identify gaps in one's understanding. Blogging serves as a platform to apply this technique, enabling me to both solidify my own understanding and share knowledge with others. Finally, regular writing encourages self-reflection. Inspired by Jordan Peterson's "12 Rules for Life," participating in exercises like the ones on his self-authoring website can have a profound impact on my personal development and that of others who are outside my current social circle.

In conclusion, the limitations of a small social circle have become increasingly apparent to me. Actively working to expand this circle, whether through in-person interactions or online engagement, will not only improve my life practically but will also enrich it by opening up avenues for learning and personal growth.

On Having a Social Circle That Is Too Small

Welcome back to Continuous Improvement, the podcast where we explore ways to enhance our lives personally and professionally. I'm your host, Victor, and today we're going to delve into the importance of building a strong social network, especially for expatriates living in a foreign country.

As an expatriate myself, I've experienced firsthand the challenges that come with having a limited social circle. It's not just about having people to hang out with, but it's also about the practical benefits of having a broader network of connections. Let me share a personal story that highlights this point.

Recently, I had to unexpectedly vacate my apartment due to a lease termination. Without a large social network to rely on for advice or assistance, I found myself in a difficult situation. I ended up settling for a less-than-ideal living situation simply because I didn't have enough connections to guide me towards better options.

This experience made me realize the importance of actively expanding my social network. It's not enough to rely solely on my work colleagues; I need a diverse group of people to share knowledge, insights, and practical advice. So, how can we go about achieving this?

First and foremost, getting out of our comfort zones is crucial. As an introvert, my default weekend activity is staying at home and reading books. However, I've come to realize that this limits my exposure to new people and experiences. Being willing to venture out and engage in activities such as public speaking clubs, sports, or cultural organizations can greatly expand our social circles and create opportunities to connect with individuals who can provide valuable insights.

In addition to in-person interactions, the internet offers a plethora of opportunities to connect with people we wouldn't ordinarily meet. For instance, writing blog posts or hosting podcasts, like this one, allows us to share our thoughts and perspectives with a wider audience. This not only helps us articulately communicate with strangers but also enables collaborative truth-seeking. Through these platforms, we can gain fresh perspectives and learn from diverse individuals who can offer different insights into the topics we discuss.

Regularly writing blog posts, for example, offers several benefits. Firstly, it allows us to connect with people beyond our immediate social circle. By exploring our thoughts and ideas in writing, we can better articulate ourselves and effectively communicate with strangers. Secondly, writing and sharing knowledge with others helps us solidify our own understanding. The Feynman Technique, named after the brilliant physicist Richard Feynman, suggests that explaining something in simple terms can help identify gaps in our understanding. Through blogging, we can apply this technique, so not only do we improve our own knowledge, but we also share valuable insights with others. Finally, regular writing encourages self-reflection. Participating in exercises that promote self-reflection, such as those found on websites like Jordan Peterson's self-authoring, can have a profound impact on personal development for ourselves and those outside our current social circle.

In conclusion, the limitations of a small social circle have become increasingly apparent to me. Actively working to expand this circle, whether through in-person interactions or online engagement, can greatly improve our practical lives and also enrich our personal growth.

That's all for today's episode of Continuous Improvement. Thank you for joining me as we explored the importance of building a strong social network, particularly for expatriates. Remember, expanding our social circles not only helps us navigate practical challenges but also opens up avenues for learning, collaboration, and personal growth.

If you have any thoughts or experiences about this topic that you'd like to share, I'd love to hear from you. You can connect with me on our website, continuousimprovementpodcast.com, or on our social media platforms. Until next time, keep striving for continuous improvement in every aspect of your life.

擁有過小的社交圈子

作為一個在外國工作生活的僑民，我發現我的社交圈子相當小。雖然大部分的朋友都住在我的祖國，而我則透過我的工作與他們聯繫，但這樣的有限網絡讓我處於不利的狀況。例如，我最近因突如其來的租約終止而不得不離開我的公寓，發現自己哪裡都找不到新的住處。沒有廣泛的社交網絡指導我，我最後陷入了一種不太理想的生活狀況。那時我才意識到擁有更廣泛的社交網絡的重要性，用於獲取實際的建議，例如尋找可負擔的住房。

如果我的社交圈子更大，我本可以用不同的方式來應對這種情況。除了同事外，我需要通過積极參與各種社交活動來擴大我的人脈。作為一個內向的人，我默認的週末活動是在家看書，但我需要走出去與公共演講俱樂部，運動或文化團體進行互動。互聯網也提供了一個我通過參與博客寫作或主持播客，來了解與我不同的觀點並實現共享真理的機會。

我計劃定期發佈帖子來處理這個問題，主要有三個原因。首先，部落格寫作能夠讓我連接到我的直接社交圈子以外的人，同時也幫助我更好地陳述我的想法。有了這些在我的博客文章中已經探索過的思想，我可以更有效地與陌生人交流。其次，我有寶貴的見解可以分享。我最喜歡的物理學家理查德·費曼命名的費曼技術，假設用簡單的術語解釋某事可以幫助人們找出自己理解中的缺口。部落格寫作就是一個應用這種技術的平台，使我能夠鞏固我自己的理解和與他人分享知識。最後，定期寫作鼓勵自我反思。双重參與像喬丹·彼得森的《生活的12條規則》，在他的自我寫作網站上的一些練習，對我的個人成長和那些在我現有社交圈之外的人有著深遠的影響。

總之，對我來說，社交圈子的限制越來越明顯。積極地擴大這個圈子，無論是通過面對面的互動還是在線參與，不僅會在實質上改善我的生活，還會通過開放學習和個人成長的途徑來豐富我的生活。

On Being More Socially Skilled

We can use our social skills to build connections, influence decisions, and inspire change. However, during a recent class, social anxiety held me back. When the speaker asked for volunteers to ask questions or share their opinions, the room fell silent. No one raised their hand; no one dared to speak. Social skills are crucial for both my professional and personal growth, and their absence would be detrimental. Since I'm an expatriate who doesn't know many people here, I drove two hours to attend the event and expand my network. I did engage with locals seated next to me, learned from their life stories, and made new connections. But often, I found myself sitting in a corner, unseen and silent. Though hiding may feel comfortable and spare me any potential embarrassment, it also holds me back from engaging with others. To avoid awkward situations, I even left the class without making eye contact.

To better handle such situations, I need to overcome my social anxiety. Even celebrities experience nervousness; I'm not alone. I need to stop doubting myself and envisioning worst-case scenarios. The truth is, I have the skills and capabilities to handle these social settings successfully. Preparing opening lines in advance and practicing social engagement can boost my confidence. My networking shouldn't be limited to MBA events and formal dinners. I need to let go of the quest for perfection and recognize that mistakes are a part of the learning process. I don't have to compare myself to seasoned public speakers who have spent years honing their craft. Arriving early to familiarize myself with the venue and engaging with the audience can also ease my anxiety. If I don't manage to establish a meaningful connection immediately, it's not the end of the world.

In essence, the best way to improve my social skills is through practice. Whether the feedback is positive or negative, interactions with strangers provide valuable learning experiences. Frequent social engagements can help me overcome shyness and eventually alleviate my anxiety about speaking to strangers. It's important to remember that I'm not the focal point in these settings; I'm merely a participant. My fear of social interactions won't subside if I let my ego dominate my thoughts. Taking a deep breath, relaxing, and conversing naturally can go a long way. I have valuable contributions to make, courtesy of my wide reading habits, which provide me with current information, news, and even jokes. Finally, I should aim for a balance of friendliness and enthusiasm, enough to initiate a conversation but not so much that it scares people away. Developing social skills is a journey that takes time and effort, but it's a crucial investment for my future.

On Being More Socially Skilled

Hello, and welcome back to another episode of "Continuous Improvement." I'm your host, Victor, and today we're diving into a topic that many of us can relate to: social anxiety. We all know that social skills are important for personal and professional growth, but sometimes, that fear of speaking up or engaging with others can hold us back. In today's episode, we'll explore strategies to overcome social anxiety and improve our social skills.

But before we get started, I want to remind you to subscribe to our podcast so you never miss an episode. And if you're enjoying the show, please leave us a review. Your feedback helps us grow and reach more listeners like you. Now, let's jump right in.

I want to share a personal experience that many of you may relate to. I recently attended a class where the speaker asked for volunteers to ask questions or share their opinions. The room fell silent. No one raised their hand, including myself. I drove two hours to attend the event, eager to expand my network, but social anxiety held me back.

It's a common scenario. We envision worst-case scenarios, doubt ourselves, and fear embarrassment. But the truth is, we have the skills and capabilities to handle social situations successfully. It's important to remind ourselves of that.

To overcome social anxiety, we first need to change our mindset. Even celebrities experience nervousness, so we're not alone in this. We should stop doubting ourselves and start envisioning positive outcomes. Preparing opening lines in advance and practicing social engagement can boost our confidence.

Networking shouldn't be limited to specific events or formal settings either. We need to let go of the quest for perfection and recognize that mistakes are a part of the learning process. By actively seeking social opportunities, we can gradually overcome shyness and anxiety.

Now, let's talk about some practical strategies we can implement. One effective tip is arriving early to familiarize ourselves with the venue and engage with the audience. This can help to ease anxiety and make us feel more comfortable in the environment.

Another important aspect is recognizing that we are not the focal point in social settings. We are participants. By taking deep breaths, relaxing, and conversing naturally, we can begin to alleviate our anxiety and feel more at ease.

It's also crucial to remember that we all have valuable contributions to make. Our wide reading habits provide us with current information, news, and even jokes. Embracing this knowledge and sharing it with others can be a great conversation starter.

Finding the right balance between friendliness and enthusiasm is key. We want to initiate conversations without overwhelming or scaring people away. Practice makes perfect, and the more frequent our social engagements, the better we become at it.

Ultimately, developing our social skills is a journey that requires time and effort. Overcoming social anxiety is possible, and it's an important investment in our future. So, let's embrace the opportunities to practice, learn from feedback, and grow in our interactions with others.

That's all for today's episode of "Continuous Improvement." I hope you found these strategies helpful in your journey to overcome social anxiety. Remember, it's a process, but with persistence, we can improve our social skills and build meaningful connections.

Thank you for listening, and don't forget to tune in to our next episode. Until then, keep striving for continuous improvement in all aspects of your life.

This is Victor, signing off. Have a great day!

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關於更具社交技巧

我們可以使用我們的社交能力來建立聯繫，影響決策，並激發變革。然而，在最近的一堂課上，社交焦慮阻止了我。當講師要求自願者提問或分享他們的觀點時，教室裡一片沉默。沒有人舉手，沒有人敢於說話。 社交技巧對我的專業和個人成長至關重要，缺乏它將是不利的。由於我是一名不認識這裡的許多人的外籍人士，我開車兩小時參加這次活動並擴大我的網絡。我确实與坐在我旁邊的當地人進行了交流，從他們的生活故事中學習，並建立了新的聯繫。但是，我經常發現自己坐在角落裡，無人問津，默默無語。雖然躲藏可能讓我感到舒適，並使我免受任何潛在的尷尬，但它也阻止了我與他人交往。為了避免尷尬的情況，我甚至沒有眼睛接觸就離開了課堂。

為了更好地處理這種情況，我需要克服我的社交焦慮。即使是名人也會感到緊張；我並不孤單。我需要停止懷疑自己，不再想象最壞的情況。事實上，我有技能和能力成功處理這些社交場合。提前準備開場白並實踐社交參與可以提高我的自信心。我的網絡不應僅限於MBA活動和正式晚餐。我需要放下追求完美的追求，承認錯誤是學習過程的一部分。我不需要將自己與花費多年精雕細琢技巧的經驗豐富的公眾演說者比較。提前到達以熟悉場地和與觀眾交流也可以緩解我的焦慮。如果我無法立即建立有意義的聯繫，這並不是世界的盡頭。

從本質上講，提升我的社交技巧的最好辦法是通過實踐。無論反饋是積極的還是消極的，與陌生人的互動都提供了寶貴的學習經驗。頻繁的社交活動可以幫助我克服羞怯，並最終減輕我對與陌生人說話的焦慮。重要的是要記住，我不是這些設置中的焦點；我只是一個參與者。如果我讓自我主義支配我的思想，我對社交互動的恐懼不會消退。深深地呼吸，放鬆，自然地對話可以大有裨益。我有寶貴的貢獻，我的廣泛閱讀習慣為我提供了當前的信息，新聞，甚至笑話。最後，我應該尋求友善和熱情的平衡，足以發起對話，但不至於讓人畏懼。開發社交技巧是一個需要時間和努力的過程，但對於我的未來來說，這是至關重要的投資。

On Feeling Drained by Social Interactions

Social interactions often leave me, an introvert, feeling drained. The last time I experienced this was at a farewell party surrounded by friends. The organizer had requested that everyone bring food to share, so I opted for a French baguette and assorted alcoholic beverages like vodka and tonic, Kenmore whiskey, and ginger ale. I chose these Western-style items to stand out, but they remained untouched by the end of the party. This left me questioning whether I should feel ashamed for not conforming to the cultural norms of Hong Kong, where people typically prefer Chinese food.

During the event, my friends engaged in small talk, discussing topics like favorite foods, workplace quirks, and other random matters. I mostly stayed silent, not because I'm unfriendly, but because I had nothing to contribute. For example, if the conversation turned to gaming, sports, or Western music, I was out of my depth, given my lack of interest in these subjects. I found it exhausting to sit there for an hour, nodding in agreement, pretending to be an engaged listener.

To counteract my social shortcomings, I could consider changing my lifestyle to become more outgoing and diverse. More social outings could enrich my experience, allowing me to share stories about activities like wakeboarding. Broadening my circle of friends would expose me to interesting anecdotes, and staying informed through books and news could add depth to my contributions in conversations. Otherwise, if I continue leading a monotonous life—staring at a computer screen day and night, eating the same meals, and never stepping outside my comfort zone—my social interactions will remain unremarkable. Being open to new experiences and adopting different perspectives can enrich my life. Having a range of hobbies, such as rock climbing, kayaking, coffee brewing, or wine tasting, can offer me more to talk about and connect over.

To mitigate the draining feeling I experience during social interactions, I need to improve my conversational skills to avoid awkward moments. It was an eye-opener to realize that some people can become the life of the party without revealing much about themselves. They skillfully steer conversations by acknowledging and commenting on others' remarks, asking questions, and giving genuine compliments. Although I've read numerous self-improvement books on building relationships, I've yet to put these techniques into practice. While reading about these methods is encouraging, applying them in real-life situations can be daunting, which is why I've hesitated.

In both my personal and professional life, mastering the art of relationship-building, connecting, and establishing rapport is crucial. If I can learn to derive energy rather than fatigue from social interactions, my overall happiness and success will likely improve.

On Feeling Drained by Social Interactions

Welcome, everyone, to another episode of Continuous Improvement. I'm your host, Victor, and today we're diving into a topic that hits close to home for introverts like myself – social interactions. Specifically, how they can leave us feeling drained and what we can do about it.

Let me share a personal experience with you. Recently, I attended a farewell party with my friends. As an introvert, such gatherings can be overwhelming, and this one was no exception. There was small talk, laughter, and an array of delicious Chinese food. Amidst all this, I felt like I was on the outskirts, not being able to fully engage or contribute.

You see, I had brought a Western-style spread of a French baguette and some assorted alcoholic beverages, hoping to add a unique touch. But to my surprise, it remained untouched by the end of the party. This made me question if I should have conformed to the cultural norms of Hong Kong, where Chinese cuisine is usually preferred.

It's moments like these that make us contemplate our own social shortcomings. But instead of dwelling on them, let's explore how we can grow and improve our social interactions.

One approach I've considered is changing my lifestyle to become more outgoing and diverse. Perhaps attending more social outings, trying new activities like wakeboarding or broadening my circle of friends could enrich my experiences and give me more to contribute in conversations. The key here is to step outside our comfort zones and be open to new experiences and perspectives.

Another important aspect is improving our conversational skills. Think about those people who effortlessly navigate conversations, engaging others without revealing much about themselves. It's admirable, isn't it? But how do they do it?

I've read countless self-improvement books on building relationships, but I've yet to put those techniques into practice. The truth is, applying them in real-life situations can be challenging and overwhelming. However, it's important for us to strive to improve this aspect of our lives. The skill of acknowledging and commenting on others' remarks, asking questions, and giving genuine compliments can help steer conversations and establish rapport.

Now, mastering the art of building relationships doesn't just apply to our personal lives – it's equally important for our professional success. By learning how to derive energy rather than fatigue from social interactions, we can enhance our overall happiness and achievements.

But let's not forget that balance is key. As introverts, it's crucial to ensure we also have enough time for solitude and self-care. We need to recharge in our own ways to be the best versions of ourselves in social settings.

As we reflect on our own social interactions, let's challenge ourselves to continuously improve. Let's strive to broaden our experiences, sharpen our conversational skills, and find ways to nourish our introverted souls.

That's it for today's episode of Continuous Improvement. I hope you found some valuable insights to help you navigate social interactions. Don't forget to join me next time for more discussions on personal growth and development.

Until then, remember - continuous improvement is the key to unlocking our true potential. Take care, and stay curious!